Thursday, October 20, 2011

Reunions of a sort

Last weekend was Homecoming at my alma mater, and every year my swim team hosts an Alumni vs Students swim meet.  It's part booster, part social trip, and a large dose of nostalgia.  This year was somewhat special in that we could actually go, and a friend that had fallen out of everyone's orbit flew into town for the shindig.  

It was amazing to see him, as when he left for Purdue to pursue his PHD there was a lot of fall out in our group of friends because he choose to marry someone that was fairly universally disliked by everyone who met her.  She was terrible for him, and to make it worse she is Mormon (he is the son of a Missouri Synod Lutheran Preacher).  They had lost of personal problems, not the least of which where her seeming inability to be faithful.  A number of us (myself included) tried to tell him it seemed like a bad idea to marry her, and it damaged a lot of friendships.  Towards the end of his stay here in the PNW one of the people that he was sharing a house with (well call him C) was a very good friend of his.  C had very limited patience for our friends inability to see how bad a decision this was and they had a blow out fight both said hurtful things and to my knowledge haven't spoken in the 5 years he has been gone.  While our friend was in town he apologized for the way he acted (to me) and I told him that C was living near me and gave him C's number.  It was such a waste for two people that had been great friends, to fight over something so pointless.  

Our friend has since had a kid with and divorced from the woman that caused all of the trouble to begin with, and it appears that she continued to have trouble with staying faithful after they moved out of state.  I'm glad that he is working to fix the relationships, we swam together for 4 years much of that time in the same lane for practices.  We also shared an event so we had some rivalry in the 200 breaststroke and it pained me to see it end the way it did.

Here's hoping for a few more mended relationships, I know I have a few of my own to fix.


  1. so, how was it when you guys first saw each other again? was it stressful? what happened?

    i'm nosy.

  2. gosh. I hate reunions.

    I agree, it is a waste of time fighting over some pointless matter. I mean, life is short and should be live with fun and no arguments as much as possible =))

  3. Ugh, it's always sad to see a friend make a horrible relationship choice... I've been that friend before, now I've learned to listen.

  4. Agreeing with Mai. I boycott reunions. Though I am a big fan of mending fences.

  5. I don't think I'd ever show for one of my reunions

  6. I'm glad you passed on the number. How does it feel to swim against college kids old man? I would be so painfully slow I would stop to laugh at myself...